This law states that your outer world reflects your inner world.
You will experience what you think about and what you experience and perceive in your outer world is a direct reflection of your inner world.
Have you ever noticed how if you are in a very cluttered room you begin to feel dragged down, stifled, or overwhelmed? Some feel an overwhelming need to straighten the area, to give it order. Others turn a blind eye to the mess almost instinctively. Perhaps making excuses like "I have no space, or I am so disorganized" Most of us battle this in our homes or work places at some point, some to a larger degree than others.
Hoarding for example has become a huge problem - and the people who engage in this are often using "stuff" to literally bury their emotions and problems, rather than bringing them out into the light of day to be dealt with. On the other end of the spectrum are people who have such strong OCD compulsions they never stop cleaning, the fear of disorder or germs etc take over. It's never enough and there is a need for more comfort through control etc.
Looking at these two scenarios we see how our outer world is a direct reflection of what is going on within our inner world. The person who is buried by clutter and feeling overwhelmed by it is almost always "burying" or feels overwhelmed by something they can't face emotionally.
The person who obsesses over germs and cleanliness is afraid of what is beyond his/her control. They continually clean and sanitize (which is actually harmful) in an effort to feel they are controlling the world around them. There is a sense of powerlessness and fear deep down that is buried by this activity.
What Influences You? Do You Even Know Anymore?
An example and what helped me to reshape both my inner and my outer world is to pay attention to what influences you. We turn the TV OFF. We do not watch the news, "reality tv" or get bombarded by advertisements constantly that play on fears and insecurities. This was the best thing our family ever did for our sanity and peace of mind. We watch family friendly movies and programs commercial free via Roku in extreme moderation. We read the news once or twice per week just to stay abreast of what is important in the world, but refuse to be "news junkies" or overtaken with all the negativity.
The media loves FEAR and so do businesses! What better way to make you buy tons of beauty potions, diet pills, expensive items you don't need etc. than to play on your fears. The images of women you see are fake. I work with Photoshop as a professional - trust me! Fear of not being "perfect" causes people to consume more - to buy the next gadget or potion in an attempt to live up to an illusion that will never be reality. I read once where Cindy Crawford said "I wish I looked like Cindy Crawford" In other words the makeup, expensive lighting and Photoshop are what create that image and she doesn't actually look like that in daily life. This is just one example. There are always images of "happy people" with expensive cars, jewelry etc. giving the illusion that if you get enough stuff you'll suddenly be happy. It's an illusion and it creates fear based thinking that robs people of joy rather than creates it.
Have you ever felt tired and just "edgy" after watching crime dramas or the news? Especially the news, because in a half hour you may be bombarded with hundreds of negative stories. This gives a skewed perception of reality. Suddenly the world looks far more dangerous than it actually is, people start to become so paranoid that we all live in isolation from each other. We don't feel connected like we used to. There is always a sense of impending doom and a need to be over vigilant against danger etc. This isn't to suggest throw caution to the wind of course, but I remember as a child going outside, riding bikes, playing in the woods etc. until it was dark and then I had to be home when the street lights came on. ALL of the neighborhood kids had that freedom. We had fun, we stayed fit and healthy, and had better social skills than young people today who are kept in a bubble and who rely on texts and tweets for their social skills.
Crime existed when we grew up too, but as a society we were not obsessed with it and bombarded by images of it constantly. We kept it in its proper perspective and were educated about how to protect ourselves and trust our instincts. Today we don't give our young people that opportunity, because we've become too obsessed with trying to protect them and smother them.
So back to the original point - what you focus on in your outer world is a direct reflection of what you need to address in your inner world. This law is hard to embrace, because it means looking at ourselves with genuine honesty and that often means having to admit we are wrong about how we perceive ourselves and the world around us. Who really enjoys admitting they are wrong?
If you want to change your vibrations - you have to eliminate habits that keep you in negative mindsets. Reduce your exposure to media, advertising, sensationalism etc. Acknowledge that these things influence you more than you realize and then work to deprogram those ideas (this takes considerable time and effort but life is so much lighter and freer when you do this)
I have run the gamut in my life, from being sloppy to being very obsessive about my home. After addressing my inner world, I finally came to a place where I am a "happy medium". I don't feel compelled to be a super hero mom/woman anymore. I don't need to obsesses to be worthy of love. I do not feel buried or overwhelmed anymore and therefore I naturally became better organized. I was able to streamline my inner thinking and that allowed me to get control of my "stuff" - to keep what I truly need and want to use and to get rid of extra clutter. I know that my family will still love me if there is a dish left in the sink or laundry left to do. I know it doesn't mean I've failed as a mom etc. The image of a "super mom" is fake - and many women are running themselves into the ground trying to uphold that image to their own detriment. When you run yourself ragged, there is nothing left to give and that makes our families suffer.
Sometimes the inner world is harder to tackle - in that case start with your external world. If you are a pack rat, start letting go. It hurts, it's difficult at first - and that's because getting rid of stuff in your environment directly results in starting to let go of "stuff" in your inner world. It's all connected.
If you obsess the other way, start to give up some of that false sense of security and need for control. You will NEVER be able to control the outside world no matter how much you work yourself up ;). Your family will still love you even when the house looks lived in ;). The only thing we are in true control of at all times is our own thoughts/actions. Work to take some of your power back by focusing on what you can control, rather than obsessing over what you can't.
Those who get stuck in anger, resentment, and other self-sabotaging emotions and beliefs find that they tend to draw more chaos into their lives – and they likely don't realize they are doing it.
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