This time of year it seems all the kiddos and co-workers are in the spirit of sharing - viruses and germs that is ;). I am an advocate of course of the body being a temple and working to give your body what it needs to resist and overcome disease naturally. Our immune systems are fantastic things! Of course in a busy daily life it isn't always practical to eat 100% properly, exercise regularly and be stress free etc. The fact is even if you are superman/woman and can do all those things consistently - eventually you're still probably going to get sick with something. It's a part of life and sometimes I think the universes way of enforced rest and recovery.
Eventually, we all get sick and face illness in life. One of my pet peeves with LOA is that it tends to sound like it is blaming us when our bodies become ill. That isn't necessarily the case, although most of us, if we are honest could treat our bodies better on a daily basis, the fact is at some point we all face "dis-ease".
It's how we handle illness that determines how much we suffer however. The mind/body connection is an amazing thing and we all know that what we think about manifests. If you are ill and you focus on how much it hurts, or how uncomfortable you are or how bad you feel etc. - you will manifest more of that energy.
The best approach, as with anything, is to focus on what you DO want - healing. I use meditations and visualization regularly when I am under the weather and it always helps me to recover in shorter times than those I know who tend to focus on "being sick". I visualize my immune system doing it's thing and I thank it for working so beautifully. I bless whatever I can about the experience - from the extra down time, to an opportunity to honor and respect the parts of my life I take for granted everyday. A hot shower never feels as good as it does when you are sore from the flu for instance ;)
I believe that when we use the mind/body connection we enable healing to manifest faster and easier. Higher vibrational energies are very conducive for healing. So this year when you face the possibility of the latest cold or whatever, embrace it for how it benefits you and focus on healing - not illness.
Sunday, November 6, 2011
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
Effort vs Struggle - The Right Way to Manifest
Ok, so we all know the first step in law of attraction is knowing what you want - getting clear on that goal and then really pouring your passion into your desire. With passion and dedication come the next universal law - inspired action.
Here is where a lot of people also get hung up because they mistake "struggle" and trying to be in control - as inspired action or hard work. If you are struggling - if you are in the mindset that I have to push hard, compete, wear myself out to pursue a goal - you are approaching your goals from a fear mindset which will sabotage you. 99% of the time if you feel you have to constantly work at something to do it well enough or to be able to be "good enough" to manifest something - it is because subconsciously you are holding onto a belief system that says - I have to try harder than others because on some level I don't measure up. Your job is not to prove yourself through struggle like many of us have been taught.
The need to feel in control also stems from a lack of faith. Remember - universal law is all about the "what" not the "how" - the other universal laws step in to determine the "how" - divine providence, masculine and feminine (when you plant a seed it takes time and nurturing to grow and reach its potential)
When you are doing the right kind of hard work - it should feel like effort but not struggle or pushing beyond your limits. If your goals are causing stress and anxiety - you are engaging in "struggle" rather than inspired action and need to revisit your goals and see how you can relax into the process more and enjoy it. Often all that is needed is some simple adjustments in your thinking/emotional process to get back on target.
Here is where a lot of people also get hung up because they mistake "struggle" and trying to be in control - as inspired action or hard work. If you are struggling - if you are in the mindset that I have to push hard, compete, wear myself out to pursue a goal - you are approaching your goals from a fear mindset which will sabotage you. 99% of the time if you feel you have to constantly work at something to do it well enough or to be able to be "good enough" to manifest something - it is because subconsciously you are holding onto a belief system that says - I have to try harder than others because on some level I don't measure up. Your job is not to prove yourself through struggle like many of us have been taught.
The need to feel in control also stems from a lack of faith. Remember - universal law is all about the "what" not the "how" - the other universal laws step in to determine the "how" - divine providence, masculine and feminine (when you plant a seed it takes time and nurturing to grow and reach its potential)
When you are doing the right kind of hard work - it should feel like effort but not struggle or pushing beyond your limits. If your goals are causing stress and anxiety - you are engaging in "struggle" rather than inspired action and need to revisit your goals and see how you can relax into the process more and enjoy it. Often all that is needed is some simple adjustments in your thinking/emotional process to get back on target.
Saturday, October 15, 2011
It really is OK to be selfish!
How many times have you heard growing up that you shouldn't be selfish. Focusing on yourself is a negative thing to be avoided. Women especially are always taught to put everyone above ourselves at all times even more so than men. Not saying that men are not taught this ;) but as a whole they are also encouraged to be more self-reliant and competitive etc.
So today I am going to cover a controversial subject - "Selfishness" and show you how being selfish is in fact the greatest gift you can give not only to yourself, but to everyone around you!
What? I can hear you ask... How can being selfish possibly help me be a better parent, spouse, worker, etc.
Great question - I'll explain.
When we deny ourselves we also deny others. Why? The answer is simple you cannot effectively give to others what you do not already possess within yourself. If you spend all your time putting your needs on the back burner so that you can serve others at your own expense you do no one any favors.
Remember, everyday when you look in that mirror, your only one true soulmate, the best friend you can possibly ever have who will always be there with you through everything, is the one looking back at you. No one will ever or can ever fulfill you but you.
I remember a line in the famous movie "Jerry Maguire" that everyone thought was so sweet and it made me cringe a little. "You complete me". No other person can make you whole unless you already feel fulfilled yourself. It's a nice idea, but it is simply not true. When we rely on others to "make us happy" etc. we will always fall short, because the only soul on the face of this earth who knows what you truly want and need is you. There is only one of you and you require no other person to be complete because the "all" already resides within you. You are already a complete being - you just need to recognize and embrace it. Others can complement you, can enhance you, but they cannot every "complete" you because you are NOT broken or incomplete to begin with.
We tend to get lost in others. We don't take the time for ourselves to discover what our true desires are and we turn to others - selfishly ( in the wrong sense I might add), to provide us a sense of self-worth or value.
Suddenly our children, spouses, friends etc. are burdened with the weight of being what "makes us happy". This is an unfair burden and it is stifling to everyone concerned. How do you feel when someone says that you don't make them happy? Chances are you feel defensive and that it's unfair.
When I take time to figure out who I am, I become strong and self-assured. This allows me to teach my children independence, self-confidence, and it also gives others around me permission to be who they truly are without filters. Because I am already fulfilled, others actions cannot cause me to lose my sense of worth.
Selfishness is the key to deeper, truer love and it is the best way to give all you have to others. When you are fulfilled and joyful that energy radiates from you, it manifests in an abundance that you can then share with those around you. Selfishness is about giving - not taking as we are taught..
Selfishness (in the correct context) leads people to seek the higher in themselves, to be truly fulfilled and at peace in their lives. They no longer feel anger towards others for not meeting their expectations, because they can do that for themselves. Strong, independent "selfish" people draw to them other strong people who are their equals. They lead by example and encourage strength and independence in others.
I believe that the reason our divorce rates are so high is because we are not selfish enough(in the right way) and are too selfish in the wrong context - we focus too much on others for a sense of self-worth and ultimately it fails, leaving us angry and empty. We neglect our health(mental, spiritual) in our desire to be "selfless", but those who know no self actually burden those around them. When you get into a relationship or in a group of others who also are not "selfish" enough they in turn put the burden of their happiness and sense of self-worth unfairly on you.
Many teachers have taught us this in the past - "Be the change you want to see in the world" is one of my favorite quotes. In other words, don't focus on what the other guy is doing wrong that offends you, work instead on focusing on your self - fixing you, so that you can lead by example... "Be selfish!"
In short there are two kinds of selfish - the wrong kind - that puts the burden of your joy, success, sense of worth on others unfairly and the right kind - the kind that is self-focused and positive allowing you to be independent but still compassionate and loving.
So today I am going to cover a controversial subject - "Selfishness" and show you how being selfish is in fact the greatest gift you can give not only to yourself, but to everyone around you!
What? I can hear you ask... How can being selfish possibly help me be a better parent, spouse, worker, etc.
Great question - I'll explain.
When we deny ourselves we also deny others. Why? The answer is simple you cannot effectively give to others what you do not already possess within yourself. If you spend all your time putting your needs on the back burner so that you can serve others at your own expense you do no one any favors.
Remember, everyday when you look in that mirror, your only one true soulmate, the best friend you can possibly ever have who will always be there with you through everything, is the one looking back at you. No one will ever or can ever fulfill you but you.
I remember a line in the famous movie "Jerry Maguire" that everyone thought was so sweet and it made me cringe a little. "You complete me". No other person can make you whole unless you already feel fulfilled yourself. It's a nice idea, but it is simply not true. When we rely on others to "make us happy" etc. we will always fall short, because the only soul on the face of this earth who knows what you truly want and need is you. There is only one of you and you require no other person to be complete because the "all" already resides within you. You are already a complete being - you just need to recognize and embrace it. Others can complement you, can enhance you, but they cannot every "complete" you because you are NOT broken or incomplete to begin with.
We tend to get lost in others. We don't take the time for ourselves to discover what our true desires are and we turn to others - selfishly ( in the wrong sense I might add), to provide us a sense of self-worth or value.
Suddenly our children, spouses, friends etc. are burdened with the weight of being what "makes us happy". This is an unfair burden and it is stifling to everyone concerned. How do you feel when someone says that you don't make them happy? Chances are you feel defensive and that it's unfair.
When I take time to figure out who I am, I become strong and self-assured. This allows me to teach my children independence, self-confidence, and it also gives others around me permission to be who they truly are without filters. Because I am already fulfilled, others actions cannot cause me to lose my sense of worth.
Selfishness is the key to deeper, truer love and it is the best way to give all you have to others. When you are fulfilled and joyful that energy radiates from you, it manifests in an abundance that you can then share with those around you. Selfishness is about giving - not taking as we are taught..
Selfishness (in the correct context) leads people to seek the higher in themselves, to be truly fulfilled and at peace in their lives. They no longer feel anger towards others for not meeting their expectations, because they can do that for themselves. Strong, independent "selfish" people draw to them other strong people who are their equals. They lead by example and encourage strength and independence in others.
I believe that the reason our divorce rates are so high is because we are not selfish enough(in the right way) and are too selfish in the wrong context - we focus too much on others for a sense of self-worth and ultimately it fails, leaving us angry and empty. We neglect our health(mental, spiritual) in our desire to be "selfless", but those who know no self actually burden those around them. When you get into a relationship or in a group of others who also are not "selfish" enough they in turn put the burden of their happiness and sense of self-worth unfairly on you.
Many teachers have taught us this in the past - "Be the change you want to see in the world" is one of my favorite quotes. In other words, don't focus on what the other guy is doing wrong that offends you, work instead on focusing on your self - fixing you, so that you can lead by example... "Be selfish!"
In short there are two kinds of selfish - the wrong kind - that puts the burden of your joy, success, sense of worth on others unfairly and the right kind - the kind that is self-focused and positive allowing you to be independent but still compassionate and loving.
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